We spend so much of our lives trying to fit into the world, to be normal, and when we think we fall short, we make ourselves miserable.
Somewhere along the line, parents, teachers, caregivers, religious leaders, family, friends and partners have indoctinated us and hypnotised us into thinking that “normal” is what the majority of people are, and if we are even slightly different, there’s something wrong with us!
Society believes there is a “model version” of what we should all look like, like a mould of perfection and in many instances, society is trying to enforce rules and punishments to get us to conform to this vision.
When you really think about this, it’s a crazy notion! Yes, in every population of people there are some averages, some common traits, personalities, opinions, physical features, beliefs amongst other things, but these averages are just mathematical calculations of the data. Perhaps taking multiple things, adding them together and dividing them by the number of things, or latching onto what is most represented – the majority.
The whole thought of being exactly like some majority is totally irrational! It defies logic and nature. There is no such thing as an identical person! Even identical twins may only be so in physical DNA and features but not in thousands of other ways.
When you Stop and tune into all the thousands of things that make each of us who we are, you will begin to understand how unique and individual we each are. Our appearance, thoughts, beliefs, values, emotions, habits, behaviours, abilities, skills, attitudes, aspirations, ambitions, outlook, attractions, desires, dislikes, tolerances, intolerances, preferences, genes, chemical and hormonal balances, cell and organ condition and functioning are just some of the things that add up in a unique way to make up who we are.
Some factors and physical make up we are born with or grow into, depending on who our ancestors are. Others we learn through teachings and experiences and a huge amount of this depends on where and how we are brought up, who we are surrounded by, what we pay attention to and value, how we are rewarded and punished, what the culture is with it’s rules, values and beliefs, what we are told about ourselves in relation to these.
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